You always pass failure on the way to success.
Mickey Rooney
Failure is inevitable if we are to succeed in life. Unfortunately, many people do not know how to overcome failure, and they are stopped by it when they encounter one. The ability to overcome failure is one big difference between successful and mediocre people. After all, we should pass failure on the way to success, so it is the ability to pass it that makes the difference between those who eventually reach success and those who don’t.
So, knowing that overcoming failure is essential, what should we do? Here are some tips to help you overcome failure:
1. Rise up and don’t regret; you have spent your time wisely
A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
George Bernard Shaw
When we fail, we might be tempted to think that we have wasted our time and thus regret it. But that’s should not be the case. The fact that you have done something is much better than doing nothing. Many people who despise persons who fail never do anything themselves. Rise up and move on. The regret lies not in doing, but in not doing.
2. Understand that failure is there to bring you wisdom
Good people are good because they’ve come to wisdom through failure.
William Saroyan
Failure is there not without a reason. It’s there to give you the wisdom you need to succeed. Each failure you encounter increases your wisdom and brings you one step closer to success. If you have this mindset, you will see failure differently. You will see each failure as an opportunity to learn.
3. Learn as much as possible from the failure
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.
Albert Einstein
While failure brings you wisdom, how much wisdom you will get depends entirely on your ability to harvest it. So don’t waste the opportunity to learn; harvest wisdom as much as possible from the failure. If you fail to do this, you may waste a lot of time by repeating the same mistakes in the future.
4. Don’t give up; maybe you are only one step away from success
Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas A. Edison
The thought of giving up is tempting, especially when we have failed over and over again. But who knows that maybe you are only one step away from success? Will you waste the long journey you have passed when you are already so close to your destination?
So hold on tight and don’t give up. Thomas Edison failed thousands of times to perfect the light bulb. He knew what it means not to give up.
5. Maintain your enthusiasm
Not only you should keep on trying, you should also do it with the same level of enthusiasm as when you first began. Otherwise your subsequent effort will have less and less power.
So how do you maintain enthusiasm? One good way is by realizing that you are now one step closer to success thanks to the lessons you learn. There’s no reason not to be enthusiastic when you are getting closer to success. Another way is to keep your mind on the destination, which brings us to the next point.
6. Keep dreaming big dreams
Always have your destination in mind; keep dreaming your big dreams. Spend time to visualize them and let the dreams energize you. Let them make you passionate and enthusiastic. Once you cease dreaming, soon you will also lose your energy and be back to mediocrity. To overcome all the obstacles you encounter you always need a greater why, and that why is provided by your dreams.
7. Keep your confidence in yourself
Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so.
Belva Davis
Keep your confidence in yourself despite the failure. Of course, you need to put a lot of effort and learn as much as possible from the failure, but you have the ability to make your dream come true. Many people who achieve great undertakings have no special trait. They are just ordinary people with extraordinary attitude. Let’s be one of them.
Update:
This post is my submission to the group writing project at Litemind.
Photo by Behrooz Nobakht
Fear of failure can really be a roadblock on the way to achieving our dreams. I think we often avoid situations where failure is a possibility because we don’t have any plans for dealing with failure. If we can prepare ahead of time using the tips you provide here, it will seem less frightening and less devastating.
Why do you say failure is inevitable? Surely this cannot be true, failure is always a possibilty but never inevitable?
Doug
http://www.dougwoods.com
@Doug
I think it is more appropriate to say that failure is inevitable at some point. Failure isn’t inevitable in any given venture. If that were so, it wouldn’t make sense to take any risk. That being said, I don’t think there are any successful people that haven’t experienced some failure on the path to their dreams. Failure seems to be a prerequisite for success. It tests us to find out how committed we are to the dream, and teaches us lessons we will need to know along the way.
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Quint,
I agree, preparing for failure makes it less frightening. That’s a good way to connect ‘overcoming failure’ with ‘fear of failure’.
And your second comment gives us good description about the role of failure on the road to success.
Doug,
I agree with Quint’s comment on this. Failure is inevitable at some points. The statement ‘Failure is inevitable’ here actually comes from the quote ‘You always pass failure on the way to success.’ On the way to success, there are pitfalls at some points which we cannot avoid.
In regards to number 5:
Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.
– Winston Churchill
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“7 powerful tips to overcome failure” (???)
What do you call failure? isn’t failure what you call failure?
Maybe what you call failure is actually success of a kind you haven’t considered. If failure teaches you a lesson in perception, isn’t it success? If it teaches you tolerance for something you don’t like, isn’t it success? If so called failure teaches you to be whole and real, isn’t what you call failure, in reality, success? The defense rests.—Doug Rosbury
Hi Donald, once again, another great post on handling failures.
I really like tips 1, 2, and 3; look at it this way, we only live once. Either we go out there, try, fail and learn and MAYBE we will succeed one day OR we continue to live our life in mediocrity CONFIRMED!
So which way is it?
Keep in touch, Donald. 🙂
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@Doug
I would agree that failure is mostly perception. It takes time and reflection to look back at a “failed” situation and see what you might have gained.
I think these tips are meant to help us deal with the powerful emotions created when we put our whole heart into the pursuit of a goal, and we don’t reach it. We experience disappointment, reduced self esteem, loss of hope, and maybe even a desire to quit. It would probably be considered abnormal to not experience these kinds of feelings. Using the tools Donald talks about here can help us make it through the darkness and find those lessons on the other side.
The defense may continue to rest, because there is no prosecution 😉
Great insightful post.
Only thing I would add is when you ‘fail’ the first time don’t see it as failure. If you ‘fail’ at the same thing time and time again, that may be classed as failure because you are not learning and changing your approach.
Andrew
dorksgetlaid2,
Thanks for the quote!
Doug,
These are nice questions which make us think. I agree with Quint, it’s a matter of perception and this post deals with the negative feeling that may occur.
Lawrence,
I agree with the way you describe it. That’s exactly the mindset we should have in dealing with failure.
Either we take the risk to achieve something great or forever live in mediocrity.
I prefer the former and I’m sure you too 🙂
Quint,
I love the way you explain it 🙂
Andrew,
We can see the term ‘failure’ in different ways. The term ‘failure’ in this post also includes the first unsuccessful attempts.
I agree with you that the first ‘failure’ is normal. The important thing is to learn from it so that it won’t happen again.
When you depend on success because it brings you income you need, failure will be disappointing. But if income isn’t at stake then it shouldn’t be so bad. But watch out for ego trips
your sense of self importance will often be tied into both success and failure and make either one all too important.
What is it that makes one a tragedy and the other, a self
aggrandizing celebration of self importance? Egotism.
Humility will even things out. Failure contains all the
information you need in order to succeed. Don’t recognize
the power of failure to put you down. “If at first, you don’t succeed, try try again”— Doug Rosbury
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I choose to see lessons rather than failure. Wayne Dyer has a saying that I really like. I don’t know who he got it from. It says, “Nothing in my world ever goes wrong.” What can I learn from life’s ups and downs? How can I use that to grow spiritually? Great post.
Keeping confidence in yourself may be a tough thing to do, especially when you manage to go through a big chain of mistakes. It is so easy to get depressed, and so difficult to get over it!
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Patricia,
That’s a good way to see failure. Hopefully more and more people will see it that way.
Simonne,
That’s true. I think learning other people’s stories could help here. If we learn how other people fail and rise again, it will be easier for us to keep our confidence.
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It is so hard to cope with failure. These are points we should all remember.
I’ve just read your tips. I see them concise and useful. Well done. I chose them for Litemind lists project.
Neena,
I agree, it’s hard to cope with failure. It’s an important lesson we all should learn.
Xoel,
Thanks! Much appreciated.
I love these tips! They are so uplifting and so true. I especially like the first tip – there’s always something to be learned from our experiences. Perhaps even more so with failure.
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Hi Donald,
You post just got one of my votes for the GWP over at Litemind too. Those points resonate with my own experience in failure and are spot on!
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Holli Jo and Monika,
Thanks a lot for your support! I appreciate it.
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i am happy to know all the tips cause now a days i am really broken for my result in exam which is unexpected….bt u must add more examples…..
The comment by Farah Shabnam is totally unreadable. This
kind of comment, being meaningless to the reader, is useless in
conveying the writers message. I urge the writer to study the english language and at least, have someone write it for him.——
——Doug Rosbury
hello to every one!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hey i know i am intelligent but i don’t have an interst in studies plz help me i m in 10th standard and plz do something because i dont’ want to llose my future mail me and tell me plz
plz help me
my mail id is
naughty_fellow420@yahoo.com
I failed three times in my exams.I studied day and night for success.And I feel very down.I failed my father,I feel that i failed in life
I need help and advice. I just failed my exam where i’ve been expected by a lot of people to pass. It’s not the failure that i’m worrying about, but it’s the people around me who will look at me differently and will always look down on me. I dont know if i can deal with sort of people around me. They will always look at me this way until the day i die…please help…
i will die its better please try hope u get success
i feel the same
im very fail in my life tody
i do not know how can over passed this
because of my grade in t.v.e
advise me
i really disagree with Doug—-bla bla bla—
Doug,you are not told to give comments on ME but on the journal…dont think that its facebook or hi5…i am sure that you are not more than 10 yrs of age..
before judging me,JUDGE YOURSELF…ok????—–farah
Farah Shabnam / What else would I say If I found your comments unreadable? And I did not judge you. Do you not also misunderstand
the logic of judgement? What I said was criticizm of your writing.
As I said, Learn how to write the english language or else have someone interpret for you from a language that you are familiar with.
You fail to serve your message when your words are confusing.
This is only simple logic. Say anything you wish about me. I really
don’t care a damn . Good luck learning english.—Doug Rosbury
Farah shabnam/ Guess what. I’m 73 years old. Does that make any difference to you or will you still talk to me in a rebellious manner?
——Doug Rosbury
rween,
It’s a fact of life that you can’t please everybody. No matter how hard you try, there are always those who disagree or look down on you. For now, all you need to do is to move on and do your best on the next challenges. Live your own life and don’t live to meet others’ expectations.
Being a 76 year-oldie, you should learn the type of english language we use on the internet which consists of short forms and some phrases which oldies like you underestimate as a huge insult of the language……………well………..THEY ALWAYS HAVE A SAYING THAT…………..survival of the fittest……..if you want to chat or a give a comment on any site on the internet you should either learn the internet language………..or should I say that just follow the FREEDOM OF SPEECH……..so you dont have to show off your english and comment on others
I have something which really defines you –make sure you understand this as its not in english…..
??, ?? ??? DOUG?!?!! ? ????, ??? ?? ??? ?? ???!
………..???????……?????? ????????…..
Mr. Shabnam/ You wont hear any more from me. And I wont hear any more from You
As a matter of fact I will be filtering you out.
When I spoke of your english, I did not ask you to be so insulting.
This shows me that I should know better than to continue a conversation that is just sliding downhill. I can no longer allow
you to impose your filthy attitude on me. Goodbye,D. Rosbury
I’m sorry that I did not fit In with your blog. I will see to it that I never do any more. I will leave you to your logic and to your attitudes. And your language of hate. I have better things to
include in my life. Goodbye.
Doug u made this thing so irritating…anyways…i am not a man…i am a girl
( MISS ) Shabnam, OK, Let’s make up. I think your reactions have
made our conversation as it has been. My suggestions and such have
been given because I saw that your message was not getting through.
your english was such that you weren’t being understood. You took me in the wrong manner. I was not trying to insult you at all. Remember
that I said you should brush up on your english . Fluent english will serve you well to give you its power to get your message out to the
foreigners around you. Your culture has much to offer us all to
help us to understand Islam at its heart. Please forgive me that
i caused you so much difficulty.—Doug
well doug ,1st of all y r u calling me by my last name?–Shabnam? its not my dad’s as urs…in our culture its not necessary to add dad’s last name….Shabnam–is an Urdu word it means “dew”….Farah means”jolly”…and the thing is that u will never find any1 in my country named Farah Shabnam except me…..
and as u have mentioned abt islam…i think that my culture is not islam but Bengali… religion is a belief. ppl pray to God in different ways…..
.i am a Bangladeshi…..do u have a holiday on 21st of February called “international Language day”?…thats for us,Honey!…..we made that history…
abt ur correcting my English…well…..ppl write lots of messed up things while chatting …do u catch every1 to get penalized???….ur thoughts have becom 76 yrs old as u…..
and forgivess???….u made rude comments on me and …..i used to b generous bt now i amnt.
plz plz plz forgive me that i SENT YOU comments…! thats it
i will be very happy if we both stop playing this “pass comments”!!!!
Goodbye–farah shabnam
Farah, Use whatever language you like. I try to be clear when I speak
wether writing or speaking. Please excuse my mistakes regarding your
culture and religion. My age does not affect my thinking as you say it does. That is a fantasy. And I am 73, not 76. I was born may 6, 1935.
Another thing, Religion is a human invention. The relationship between
the spirit and the human being is an individual and personal matter, so
I do not belong to any religion. It should be entirely a personal choice,
in my opinion. Cultural religion imposes belief on the individual unfairly.
Please don’t argue the point with me. We should never argue about religion. Look at all the evil that has caused in our world. Well, I wish
you all the best. Have a happy life. That’s a choice, you know.
Take care,——Doug
well thanks Doug that u are talking positively—after a long time—-i don like ppl who never say sorry…and by the way ,y did u write76 instead of 73??…
well iam going through a BIG problem……{not necessary abt love,bf etc}…..please pray for me if u believe in God…i beleive that –“my God lives inside me”…….i am really missing myself…i used to b sooooooooooooooooo jolly…..i badly want that life back……….am waiting and trying ti snatch that…am sure it will come …someday or later…
best of luck to u….!!!!ok then take care
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Well what you are writing is wright when you fail once or twice …But for me , I don’t remember succeeding for even once . I HATE LIFE . I don’t know what to do anymore. Everything is going the wrong way . I want to blow up my head .My life is a night mare, when I don’t want to go to college because I don’t want anyone to see me.
thanks I hope I can manage the situation I passed through
this is a very good site which inspries everyone i really love this websire.
Nice way of putting it togather.
My 2 Cents;
To succed learn to master your fears.
Your passion to win should always be stronger then your fear of loose.
Azim
Dear Quint,
I just experienced what was, possibly, the biggest setback in my life and had been in un/subconscious mourning for nearly a month. Your article just revitalized me. Thanks. More than you’ll ever know.
Regards,
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The real trick is to begin picking up the pieces remaining after the consequences of failure. Those pieces are what you have left to begin again. Survey them and then start over or the failure will destroy you.
i think failure does not mean the end but it’s a beginning of a newstep in your life, iut does not mean that you should stop but you should be strong for the next
Thank you very much for a very informative and valuable informative article =).
Today, I came back from a competition. There were 5 contestants and I was one of them. I wanted to cry when they didn’t call out my name for the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd place. I kind of died. Or at least my spirit did. I didn’t know how to break the news to my Grandma. I could hear her bragging to other old women that were friends of hers of how I’d own those students from other schools. I couldn’t talk. What cuts my heart deeper is that I was the only student who didn’t get any award from my school. You guys say failure teaches and is part of life. I say it damn hurts so bad. But I’ve got this national competition next week. This post saved me. I’m not gonna sulk or go suicidal. I am going to that contest and I won’t be there because I wanted to win and brag to everyone at school. NO. I’ll be there because I refuse to be mediocre. I’ll be there because I want to show the world that I can get up and start the ball rolling again. I love my life and that’s gonna change anytime soon.
“The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists intact is to realize two out of three ain’t bad.” -I’m Like a Lawyer with the Way I’m Always Trying to Get You Off (Me + You) by Fall Out Boy
Mia,
Thanks for sharing your story with us. I’m sure you can go through it and prove that you are a winner in life. I wish all the best for you.
failure s d stepping stone for success….ur 7 steps really boost up my confidence level …i have faced so many failures ….i never took any steps to overcome tat….now i read a proverb ..if u do sumthing only u will get something …..so if u face d failure dont get temped …..go a head …sucess is waiting next to u………
It’s better to try and fail rather to fail to try.
Life is boring if u don’t experience to fail coz sometimes is not necessary to have hapiness to be satisfied
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nice article… i’ve been through a lot my whole life… im always worried and afraid of failure. i am a contractual in a government agency. i am very worried that i may lose the job… it’s nice to read articles that could uplift my spirit… thanks to the author…
The message provides a powerful spirit!!Hoping everyone would apply it.
Just like me,I was crying when I was reading it. Demeanors really come to push you up and not down!Live life to the fullest!!God always prevails!!
I agree to Thomas Edison, that in life, we must never quit because what if we are just a stone throw’s away from success.
I am a young professional who have had encountered an infinite number of failures . But every time I fall, I rise and I did not quit.
Those failures molded me to become even more stronger and firm to withstand harder struggles in life that might come along the way.
Somehow, I can say, even though I am a young professional, that I was able to attain success because I was able to outstrip my yesterday to where am I now, not from the position I have but with the number of times I failed and rise.
u know i’m a good adviser especially when people are concerned but not to myself, i’ve failed in many issues and i’m still. every time i failed i said there is still another chance. when a door closed in my face there will be many other doors, but honestly i got tired of this, i need a solution or im gona kill myself because i can’t stand it any longer. please help
. My problem is that i cant score marks in my subjet even after so much of hardwork .i will depressed . nobody understands me and even get scolding for scoring less. Can u sugest how to gain self confidence?
I’ve got law exams coming up. In fact, the first law exam is this Thursday which is 3 days away. and the next one is 3 days after that. I have gathered all my notes together ready to take in to the open book exam. But I feel like I am going to fail these law papers. Even thought I have not set the exam yet, this article has given me some hope and If the inevitable does happen, I will try and approach the failure situation with that mindset you discussed. But I understand the significance of failure, and how its capable of compelling you to success. I have failed a law test with 26%, and I came back with an A in the final exam (88%) after i re-adjusted my mindset. This was the mark that got me into Lawschool in the first place. Im now in my 3rd year in lawschool. I feel depressed and stressed that if i do fail these pending exams, my peers will look at me differently because I’ve always been viewed as a capable and sharp student. I dont know whats happening now.. But thanks for this post, I hope i wont fail. But if i do, this is the exact mindset I will adopt to compell me to success again. I will let you know of my results in a few months time. Wish me luck. and Thanks.
hey!! thanks for this website..it helps a lot to the other peoples, but not for me. i’ve got my result this morning. i’m a law student and the best part is i need to repeat 3 papers!! if i failed 1 more paper..i’ll be kicked out from my university..i can’t accept it..on the examination period, i’ve got a fever. i can’t even focus on my papers since i’ve got a really bad flu and the air-cond was so freakind cold. the impact of the incident….i need to repeat 3 papers. i’m so doomed. i need to do something that could possibly mend my frustration and heartbreak. i can’t even think clearly right now. i hate my friends since they always contacted me and ask how’s my result. can’t they just left me alone sometimes? i’m so sick right now. i’ve tried not to give a damn on what other’s expectation, but i can’t. i’m stupid..so damn stupid. i couldn’t think right now. help me!!
Yvonne, I know how you feel. I’ve failed too. I’ve failed in many interviews. And one of it is my dream job. Since I graduated about 3 months now, my friends always ask me about job. A friend of mine, always ask me every week and feel ‘amazed’ that I haven’t got a job yet. I don’t know what is this person’s intention. But somehow, I make it clear that I need some time alone. I will not let this kind of thing affects me. Do not care much about what others expectation.You know yourself. Do not give up.
I did very well in the exams. B+ for Contracts and Torts. Keep your head up everyone!! 🙂
to begin wit, m a girl who never get proposals frm guys all her past life, but one may say m smwat serious abt my studies, luckyly i got a guy who wants me, but then i lost all my enthusiasm on my career and my studies after i found my love, i fail in my education since m more worried in losing him. now i feel so hopeless abt my life . m facing all sorts of problem, first i hav lost my virginity, second i felt like m nt enjoying my life as a student, as a girl, as a daughter, as a sister to my siblings etc.
Hi everyone…i am 26 pilot student who just finished my pilot training. It was just 3 weeks after my graduations…since then i am getting a lot of pressure from my father since i haven’t get a job…i knew he did a lot for me…but not that i don’t want to work…i really want to get a job and do my best…but its not that easy to get a job by flicking my fingers…no one understands me…i m so tired of this life…if anyone out there can help me please help me out these problem…
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i m really very disappointed with myself….i was a nice student til my high schools…bt as i came to my collage life..i dnt knw what happened to me…i m continuously going to underdog …i m stucked in my 4th sem…frm last 2 years i dnt knw hw to over come tiss failure..plz help
thank you so much for this article…..
last day i failed in an interview…
but my confidence level is not decreased even it increased by reading this article…
thanks for the writer….
i am failure in my life due to loan so i want to commit suicide u have any solution?
I am considering my daughter’s academic failure and wondering if she has the ability to get up and try again.
I was always a poor student but really wanted to get an advanced physics degree. No school would give me an assistantship so I saved money for two yrs and began to pay for it myself, moved all the way across the country after giving up an oilfield job. 2.5 yrs later, I failed the comps….twice, an academic death sentence. I got an MS as a consolation prize.
Got a job in industry and then got fired, not laid off but fired.
Got another industry job for 6 yrs then got laid off. At age 40, who is going to hire someone with my record and I had three kids to support. I started a high tek business. 6 months later before I could get insurance, a fire in the lab burned the place down. An older employee talked me into continuing even though I was being sued for it.
Next, my major customer sued me for patent infringement. Somehow, I convinced one of the best and most expensive lawyers in the state to represent me although I could barely pay. My bluff worked and the bad guys caved and went away.
I convinced my tech team to give it one try to develop a new product and it worked but we were unable to sell it or license it. Being totally broke and unable to pay any bills, I was one week from closing the doors when a major company called and decided to pay a lot for part of a patent. Business got better.
Then came 2008 and with almost no business, I laid off everybody but one guy and did not pay myself.
Things have gotten better but there is no certainty and we know it could all come crashing down tomorrow.
In spite of all this, I have always been optimistic, almost pathologically so. I just hope my daughter can overcome her academic failure.
i have failed twice in SAP Business Intelligence certification exam. First attempt Oct.2010, 2nd attempt Dec.2011. the 3rd time is going to be my last time. how can i convince and motivate myself to overcome my fears of failure??????? i am feeling down and out since i failed for the second time.
Hi I’m Aljon from Philippines. I, as well as others, experienced a lot of mishaps in my life. When I was a kid, we lacked in financial matters. Most of the time, we don’t eat 3 times a day. I’m gay. I could say that I’m a complete failure. During my college life, I failed a lot of times but I always make it sure that I’ll get better result next time. There were times that I experienced getting zero in my tests. Those moment really tormented me. After getting such score, the blaze of my determination gets stronger. After zero, I usually jumped to 100. I even ended up with honor (Cum Laude)during graduation. My point? Sometimes we failed because we didn’t plan things ahead of time. It’s not because we are destined to fall, it’s just that we didn’t do a way to evade the risk of failure. What I learnt in life is that in every thing that we will do, let’s always be cautious and we must plan things ahead. Sometimes, It would be better to get lost in a fight but atleast you have fought than losing without doing anything. Just keep on fighting.
Dear aljon.thanks for your article.Since my childhood i hadn’t failed.But now while giving prestigious examination in India I have failed twice.It took almost 4yrs of my life.After reading your article now i have realised that it is my own problem of not analysing my failure that resulted into it.I will analyse my failures & succeed in life.Thnk you
Hi, I am a grade 12 student who is attending his final year in high school, who will then go to university.
In order to make it to university, I need at least 75% average for my program. If I don’t maintain this average, then not only will I not make it to university, but ill most likely not make it through life.
The midterm report card is coming out in three weeks. This report card will determine my fate.
Right now, I have three courses. Here are my averages:
History – 13%
Data Management – 65%
Sports Marketing – 50%
You might think these are very easy courses, but to me, they aren’t. Anyways, what I’m trying to say is… Is there any hope for me to enter university?
Even if I get perfect on every assignment/test from now on, would I still not make it? I’m desperate for an answer. Please reply back. 🙁
Where are the support of the teachers and friends in school when you need them? This is why this page is important: to tell you how to strike out on your own without anyone’s help.
before reading to this I was thinking to quit life.I am not getting a job here.My lot of past time has been spent to solve my family problems.
I don’t know how to overcome.please God help me.
Rohit,
I was on the page you were. Tell me what you want to be, may be if I can sort out, I would be happy too.
Hari
Your article was helpful to me. Thank you.
In my life i have failed nt only one time it is more than 1 time and those fail r such a heartbroken failers ……after that i have totoally boken down…..i will not know anything that what to do…bt after reading this…..i got enery and lessons frm this…..
Learning is a process the reason why am very happy to these tips
Thankyou sir.
Thanks alot! I am a medical student from Papua New Guinea doing third year MBBS Program. I failed my main domain and I was really torn. There were all sorts of thoughts bombarding my mind. I even thought of withdrawing from my studies!
But I’m grateful I’ve visited this site and read your articles. It gave me a new glimpse of hope to pursue my studies and achieve my dreams.
After graduating from this university I want to pursue my Masters and Ph.D in Public Health and Work with ADRA, and Iknow I will do it with the help of my God!
Thanks for keeping up my moral!
Iso Moreo, friend.
thank you for helping to people those who are in failure..now i m in failure..i learn lots of things from u..i promise u that i will not give up my enthusiasm and i will not give up my goal..thank u for helping god bless u..
Wonderful discovery.Sir, if you know what relief I’ve got from your words of advice, you can understand where how i was despaired. With the grace of the Almighty, i hope i will overcome all the challenges that afflict my life with a pursuit of my dreams,some self-esteem and faith in God for all is grace. Amen.
Believe in yourself, stop trying to rely your inner strengh in something else.
Know Thyself
thank u sir, but i need some more to overcome my obstacles and heartbroken problems. sir, why should only good people have to suffer , i dont know. i did not do any harm to anybody , i just help them .but why should i suffer and why should i get in pathetic mood. tell me sir i want practical cause.
hai i am in sad mood because i am loved one girl but she not loving but she tells thst she liking me so that my heart that was complaining and i am totaly upset because of love fail so please give me a idea to my love suceess
thanking you
Vaitees, Make yourself strong in the ares were you can do the best.Try to respect the girl you are loving and find out what is her likes, her nature match it with you nautre and likes. Then you will get answer to all your quries. Best luck
failing in love is nothing than failing in exam
People suffer because of sin despite what we’ve done (good or bad), and we live in a fallen world because of it. But if we put our faith in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, He will forgive us of our sin, and He promises us a home in Heaven when we do. Life won’t always go your way, but when you live for Christ, it will all be worth it in the end.
This articles is so great. It sorted out all my problems for not trying again..
Nice quotes, but i wouldn’t take any advice or quoting from Thomas Edison, he wasn’t what most people though he was.
Thank you for sharing this post. To be honest, I am/was at the verge of giving up on life. I pursued my dream and failed in such a big way. I have nothing… I am at rock bottom. I am still struggling and am not sure where I go from here, but I thank you for supporting everyone with a dream. One day I will succeed. I just don’t know when and I hope it is soon.
I just failed my final exams in Nursing on friday the 26th October 2012. Am really devastated and burned out at the same time but this article gave me abit of hope that I needed soo desperately.
I’ve failed it all. Health, education, relationships, spirituality, finances, life. All I can say is today is the first day of the rest of my life. I’ve got what’s left to make something, because I have what many luck. Life.
i am failure with myself because i am lock of confidence to my self….
But how to know that wether the task you’ve undertaken is one that you truly are passionate about and have a knack for ? I mean I am very bad at math but I wanna be good at it I am trying for a month but when I read that article about passion and talent I started to feel as if my mind is not made for math and I should go for other subjects that I am good at.
At the end of the rope. No way out, no hope left. Have been used, abused and misused!
I find no way. I have failed in life, very miserably, have gone too far, from where there seems to be no return and none to rescue!
Have none to share, none to care, none my burdens to bear, and when I try alone to stand on my feet, have folks around stretching their hands – I thought they were helping hands – to pull me and throw me into a deeper pit!
I dont know how to resist, I dont know how to refuse! In my attempt to please others I have failed myself miserably.
I want to bounce back, I will not give up, but I dont know whom to trust, which way to take, for all around me seems to be my foe in disguise, and all the path seems to be thin icy layer on the lake
I’m very happy with this page.I’m even very happy that many people benifitted farom this.Thanx for every one to give me this.
I have found solace in this page,& i believed it will go a long way in reforming my life frm depression.thanks alot!
Thank You Sir!
I am refreshed by your blessings…
Did a big impact…
What a bunch of crap…
fuck this, same old shit you hear everywhere. “feel good about life and it will be good” thats a load of shit. If you try hard and you learn alot, but you still get shit and shit keeps coming your way, then it doesn’t matter how you feel about it. All this crap is saying is be happy with shit and you won’t be disappointed.
Here’s the problem…..I fail because I fail to try….and fail to do. So I basically fail everything…..this is why I’m screwed.
I loved girl for 5 years . double side commited ! we both were so close to our hearts ! every one where jelous abt our long relationship ! tat 5 years we were like adam and eve njoyng in earth !!! daily meetings ! gifts and lot !!! bt suddenly when she joined colg every thng changed !! we got smal fights and any how I manged to get over it suddenly one day she told abt breakup and told some sily reasons tat I am frm low cast and she s frm upper cast and her parents wil nt accept me !! we already talked abt tis earlier in tat 5 years tat time she told we wil face it and we wil make her parrents to accept !! I was more happier and thankd god for gvng me such precious gift lyk her and was very proud of tat words she told !!! bt when she joined colg she told it wil nt work and she broked up wit me !!!! I thought to leave tis fr sme days tat she wil realize me and cme back bt things changed worst when I came to knw tat she gt commited wit other boy !!! and many thngs happend aftr tat
went to her colg and beat tat guy !! bt he create sympathy and they becme close !!! nw I do knw wat to do !!
cant even concentrate on my daily works !!
I feel lyk livng wit out her s meaning less !!! plz gve me suggestion
how to over come her
r bring back her !!! 🙁
It had been depression and angry inside. I always failed everything going through all of it children, relationship, finances, job and stink my life. I want to see my relationship shows real love me more than anything. I always cried and worried about everything what I am doing. Try it many time to get new job to support my kids. My children and my relationship don’t understand me nothing at all. Hard for me accept who I am.